There are so many factors that lead to feeling overwhelmed or burnt out. Many people feel like this either at certain times of the day or simply for specific reasons.
I spent a lot of my early mothering, advocating for self-time and prioritizing my marriage. Now, at this moment in my life, there’s very little of that due to the new baby. Max has been doing extra curriculum activities, and my husband and I work opposite shifts—talk about an intense season.
In those kinds of times, I remember that this way is only temporary because my new baby will eventually start to sleep through the night, or my toddler will be in bed by 9:00 pm (yes, this is a bit late for a preschooler but this is what works for us).
To feel like this day after day after day isn’t healthy. When there isn’t a clear “this too shall pass,” it’s time to really reconsider what needs to change. Maybe it’s time to stop worrying about cleaning, or lowering expectations for other people and to take on new responsibilities, but to just live like that, without coming up with some kind of a plan, is a recipe for total burnout.
Life is funny that way. One day we have our schedule all planned out and it works great and then life changes and there you go trying to adjust to the new normal. This all has caught me by surprise and I’ll be honest it hasn’t been an easy one for me. I love spending time with my husband but with his new schedule, we might only see each other for 30 minutes before I have to change out of my work clothes and dress Max for Karate.
What I learned from this chapter is that ultimately, you have to be at peace with what your limits are and accept them. You can only answer for yourself, for what your own abilities are and most importantly making healthy changes for the good of your family/yourself. Try as best as you can to make reasonable decisions and schedules based on what you know you can handle. What works for one person doesn’t necessarily work for someone else. Most importantly don’t compare yourself with other parents based on their parenting or how they handle their schedules, and please don’t feel like you have failed. It might pressure you to run outside your limits of mental health or maybe even just outside of what God wants you to be doing.