So I have a boyfriend now, my first boyfriend to be exact, and it’s awesome and great except for one thing: he is 689.5 miles away from me. The ironic thing is that the distance keeps us closer than ever.
We met each other senior year in high school but didn’t talk often until after we graduated. We ended up going to the same gym and later found ourselves participating in folkloric dances for our church. Never did I think a spark would light up between us, but it wasn’t long until we both saw, what started out as a spark, turn into an undeniable interest for each other.
The messages were sweeter, the phone calls were getting longer, smiles were getting bigger and the Skype dates became a thing for us.
We spent a lot of our time talking and getting to know each other before we became each other’s first boyfriend and girlfriend (<3). We learned that we had a lot of the same values and beliefs, which I was especially joyful for. For me, it was more than the looks that drew me to him, it was the way he carried himself as a person, his respectfulness, his humor, humbleness, determination and his faith.
However, being in a long distance relationship is not easy. I did not think that I would ever be in one. I didn’t see how it would be possible, or how we wouldn’t lose interest for each other with such distance physically dividing us. I had this concern until I realized that the distance would allow us to form a stronger bond between us. I realized that the phone calls and Skype dates had been the building blocks to this relationship that proved how we could manage to stay together happily. We know there is so much potential in us and in our future which is why we continue to overcome each and every obstacle. I’ve waited patiently and will continue to wait for the day in which distance is no longer an issue because I finally have the right person for me. Just as it is stated in Galatians 6:9:
“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”
We take each day slowly and patiently waiting for the time, in which God will decide, is perfect for us to be together. We know not to rush our situation and just take one step at a time, letting the path that God has for us make its way.
I have found out that being in a LDR is truly beneficial in that it teaches us to fully place our trust in each other and work on communication. It teaches us to appreciate the few times we actually get to enjoy each other’s company in person. It shows us that our honesty, openness, the little gifts, the cute letters, phone calls and messages and when we pray together at night is what maintains the spark between us. He supports me and my goals. He is my best friend. We can’t go to the movies together or walk around the park holding hands, but we have each other’s support and know that we will be able to do those things one day.
The biggest thing through it all is that we both being firm believers, believe and trust in God to take this relationship in his hands and to help us through any obstacle we may be facing. We have no idea what is going to happen in a few months or even years from now, but we have always managed to take it one day at a time and not worry about the future for only God knows our plans. What we do know is that we both want this relationship to succeed.
Ephesians 4:2-3 “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing one another with love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the spirit through the bond of peace.”