In part one and two of #mendozaxsiempre blog entries, I’ve been talking a lot about the spiritual and emotional situations throughout this time of discernment. Today, I want to talk directly to all the young ladies out there discerning matrimony and preparing your big day. I want to share with you guys 5 tips that have helped me during this preparation time. The wedding madness is real, it’s not a myth, but there are ways to absolutely love this time of planning.
1) Surround yourself with positive people
I’m blessed enough to have positive people ALL around me, but make sure you do this: Don’t surround yourself with people who are constantly making you lose focus of why you are doing what you are doing. Adrian and I have had so much support from family and friends in a way that goes beyond economic support. It transcends the simple fact of “support”— it’s an emotional necessity and don’t try to keep it all in. Find yourself a positive support and they will be your ears and mouth when time of guidance is needed. Trust me, you go to the wrong people and it WILL stress you out.
2) Keep each other a priority
It’s so easy to forget date nights and lazy afternoons watching a movie, but make this a priority. Adrian and I promised that to each other. Once a week we would have lunch or dinner and no “wedding talk” was allowed. This gave us a time to just enjoy each other and continue to keep track of each other’s home and work life. We talked about movies, music, soccer and more… just a time to be us in the middle of all the madness of planning.
3) Plan together
So being the planner that I am, this was a hard one. I wanted to make all the decisions on my own but I quickly realized that matrimony will require teamwork, so this gave me an opportunity to practice communication. Boy did this give me practice, hahaha! But it’s a nice feeling knowing that the day will happen with the ideas and suggestions of both.
4) Set and stick to your budget
This was harder for Adrian than me because I’m super greedy with money. Yet again, this gave us an opportunity to talk to set priorities together and make sure our life isn’t jeopardized for a one-day event— don’t go into debt for a wedding party!! Is that really how you want to start your matrimony? It’s a party, the most important is done, so set your budget and most importantly stick with it.(cough cough Adrian!!)
5) Keep Christ in the middle
I know I know, it’s preachy Jojo again. But no really, I owe it up to this tip that I am so full of peace and joy for my wedding day. Offer it all up to God and He will take care of everything else. No, he won’t prevent the cake from falling (haha @jeny) or prevent the thunderstorm to hit that’s set for this Saturday…. BUT He will take care of giving you what this world can’t give you and you need most of: courage, love, peace, and joy. All these things are so necessary and I have received this from Him, and I’m so unworthy yet I thank him for it because every bride deserves to know they are not alone on their big day.
In conclusion, pray for the thunderstorm to disappear for Saturday, hahaha just kidding no but really if you want to, we certainly won’t mind ;)! Have so much fun in the last months of your discernment process—I hope these tips help you as they have helped me!
Finally, pray for me and Adrian so that God may use us as His instruments for the greater glory.
Joandra Ocampo – Writer, unparalleled love